Dating is officially dead says the experts. Here’s why…
‘Hookup culture’ has killed it.
But don’t worry — all is not lost.
A new movie called, ‘The Dating Project,’ that is being released in theatres for one night only on April 17. The movie deals with modern relationships in a culture that has changed dramatically.
The anchor of the film is Kerry Cronin, Ph.D., a Boston College philosophy professor who was alarmed by the lack of dating on campus and the substitution of ‘hookups,” a vague term that can mean anything from two people watching television together to having sex. What it definitely does not mean is having any kind of real relationship, or genuine human connection, with a member of the opposite sex. Thus, Cronin began assigning her students to go on traditional dates. The result is “The Dating Project.”
The film is short, engaging and very well done—you will love the music, the cinematography and the dialogue. But to be honest, it struck me as immensely sad. The social environment young people inhabit feels akin to a brothel. What they seem to know how to do best is have sex, or some version thereof. What they don’t know is Courtship 101, or how to develop an actual romantic relationship. They just skip to the end and wonder why they’re dissatisfied.
Here is the info on the movie:
Here are three of the big misconceptions that are destroying dating relationships in our current culture:
1. For women, being sexually “liberated” and obsessively self-reliant is better than being emotionally attached to a man.
There are three aspects to most people’s lives: education, employment, and marriage & relationships. Until recently, the latter has always been understood to be the most important of the three. But for decades now, women have been told that marriage and relationships should take a back seat to their careers. What we’re left with is a generation (or two) that’s skilled in the marketplace but illiterate in love. Yet it’s the state of our love lives that will have the most effect on our happiness and well-being. What sense does this make?
2. Casual sex is both normal and good.
Casual sex is neither normal nor good. It’s a disaster. Men may have an easier time with it overall, but it’s ultimately unsatisfying for both sexes. “People treat sex like it’s casual. It’s not,” notes clinical psychologist Jordan Peterson. “Sex is unbelievably complicated. It’s dangerous. It involves emotions. It involves pregnancy. It involves illness. It involves betrayal. It reaches right down into the roots of someone. You don’t play with something like that casually. Well, you can, but you’ll pay for it.”
By “paying for it,” people assume we’re always talking about pregnancy and disease. “The Dating Project” shows that ‘paying for it’ has equally unfortunate implications.
3. You deserve the best. Never settle.
“I am so used to the amount of choices and the expectation that there’s someone better around the corner,” says Chris. This is the mindset of the modern generation, who’ve been raised in a disposable society and who try—in vain—to apply this worldview to love. But the Green Grass Syndrome, or the tendency to believe there’s something better “out there,” is debilitating. No one gets everything they want wrapped up in one person. Moreover, it’s arrogant. As Chris eventually concedes, he’s just as flawed as the women he dates. Who is he to expect perfection?
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The rise of ‘hookup culture’, a decline in religious observance, rampant divorce, as well as the modern, transient lifestyle has kept many in America single.
But there is a way back to healthy relationships.
‘The Dating Project’ movie is a great step forward — or backward as the case may be.
ClashDaily.com’s, Editor-In-Chief, Doug Giles how-to book:
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What makes America so different from other nations? Other nations are built around regimes or systems. But America was built from on ideas. From a blank slate.
Built on ideas that are DANGEROUS to tyrants.
That we have God-Given Rights, like Life, Liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
Dangerous ideas. Like this one: the people, when threatened, have a God-Given right to stand up in defiance of any government that dares threaten any of those rights.
There’s a men’s version…
And a women’s version, too…
Because in America, the bros AND the ladies BOTH have a rich history of badass rowdiness.